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Earthbound Spirits: 9 Things I wish I knew

Today I would like to talk about earthbound spirits, otherwise known as grounded spirits or “ghosts.” This topic is often overlooked and can commonly be viewed as the “elephant in the room”.

Many misconceptions of these types of spirits exist due to a lack of understanding of the spiritual world and due to the representations of the spirit world in the media. For example, things like horror movies which provides the public with an unrealistic fear based view of spirit. They often omit the very real light side of the spiritual world. 

I have found that we, as humans, are afraid of what we don’t know about. In order to release our fears, we need to learn about what scares us. The unseen world around us can seem overwhelming, and if you are new to opening up to your spiritual self, it can be tough to pinpoint where to start learning about it.

How I was first introduced to the realm of ghosts

For me, like most, my experience starts as a young child. I would like to share that story with you. And although it is not a positive experience, it remains a learning experience, and it enables me to help you to understand these types of experiences.

When I was a child, I was visiting my grandmother at her house. While exploring the house, I walked down into the basement. And there in the hall stood a man leaning up against the wall. He had long stringy gray matted hair, red eyes, and his arms and legs faded out. He looked at me and saw that I could see him. He then chased me, and I ran.

Do you know how old I was when I had that first experience? I found out I was just 2 and a half years old. And I can remember that event clearly. I was too young to understand this experience, so I locked it away in my mind. When it resurfaced a couple of years later, I realized that it was a traumatizing experience for me because I cried and cried.

It was the beginning of the 90’s when spirits were not talked about. If you mentioned anything about these types of experiences, you were commonly met with doubt and reluctance from others. This lack of acceptance contributed to your fears.

Of course after this experience, my family began to have experiences with this spirit. My mother told me it was a gift, and I should pursue it. But I was scared.

There were no resources available to me; I had no idea how to protect myself and if that was even possible; and other than knowing it was a gift, I was in the dark.

Back then I had no friends or family with knowledge as to what exactly was happening and who these spirits were. I often closed the spiritual side of myself off from friends so that I didn’t seem “weird”. Society made it clear that it was not very socially acceptable to speak of the unseen.

From this single experience, I began to “close the door” to the spirit world growing up. Every so often that door would budge itself open, and I could sense spirit. As soon as I’d realize that it was open, I would shut it again. I lived in fear of the spirit world for years.

As you probably know the world was very closed off to the spiritual back then. But in recent years, there has been a major shift. Society is beginning to recognize that we are not solely physical beings.

We are in fact, physical and spiritual beings.

Being closed off from one side of yourself is limiting your capability of being who you truly are. To be your true self, you need to embrace all of you. 

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9 Things I Wish I Knew About Earthbound Spirits as a Child:

(1) We are spiritual beings living a human life

We, as humans, all have a spiritual body. We all have the capability to communicate with spirit and to develop our spiritual abilities (commonly known as the “clairs”; clairvoyance, clairaudience, claircognizance, clairsentience).

These spiritual abilities are how we, as spirits, normally interact when we are not in a physical life. In our physical form, we all have the capability to strengthen these abilities; it just depends on how open you are and if you have any blockages preventing you from opening up.

(2) An earthbound spirit was a person like you and me

They may not have a physical body anymore, but they are around in spirit. When they died, for personal reasons of their own, they chose not to cross over to the light, back to the Divine (otherwise known as Heaven, Source, or the spiritual universe).

Reasons for staying behind can include: to watch over a loved one; unfinished business; the shock of being dead and thinking that if they don’t cross into the light, then they are still here; certain spirits can feel that they are unworthy of crossing over; etc. The reasons are endless.

It’s important to know that the Divine is all love and compassion. Everyone can choose and is given the opportunity to cross over into the light.

Spirits, just like us, also have free will. They are never forced to move on; they must be ready or convinced that it is time. That being said, eventually, most spirits will crossover. They are never alone; assistance is given to spirits to help them move on. There are light spirits (spirits residing in the Divine) that can assist earthbound spirits to cross over; there are also people whose purpose is to help earthbound spirits move on.

It’s good to remind yourself that they are not so different from you. If you think of them as a person, without a body it helps.

(3) Earthbound spirits are not all bad

Actually, the majority are not bad at all. There are people who are positive, and people who are negative. And when a person dies, that does not just disappear. Until they cross back over into the light, they remain who they were as a person in their previous life. While most people who stay behind are generally respectful of your boundaries, there are some who are not.

Even though my first experience with spirit was a negative one, it’s really important to point out to you that I have had a lot more positive experiences than negative. The majority of earthbound spirits are harmless and will respect your boundaries.

One day I was walking to my father’s house. I saw my father at the side of the house looking at the plants. I called out his name, trying to get his attention. He got up and started walking in front of the house. When I went around the tree to catch up to him, he was gone. I went inside the house, and my father was fast asleep. The person I believed to be my father was actually a spirit. My stepmom saw the same spirit a year prior, and he resembles my father from behind. In fact, my stepmom had just worked on that part of the garden the day before. It was as if the spirit was checking her work on the garden.

(4) Earthbound spirits are dependent predominantly on residual energy and energy from living people

When a spirit chooses not to cross over into the light, they become earthbound. Just like humans, to exist and carry out any activity, they need energy. Without a physical body they are not getting the energy they were used to from sources such as food and water. And without crossing over, they are not able to tap into the energy located in the Divine.

There are two main ways in which they can get energy: one from residual energy, which is energy left over lingering in the environment. The second way is from living people. Most earthbound spirits are not aware that taking energy from living people can be detrimental to the person’s health. When a spirit stays behind to watch over a loved one, for example, they are often not aware that it can be detrimental to their loved one’s health, and that they can be of better assistance from the divine once they cross over.

(5) Earthbound spirits do not make up the whole spiritual world

Earthbound spirits are only one type of spirit existing in the spiritual. If you are opening up to your spiritual side, you can choose not to work with these types of spirits. Media most often only portrays merely one piece to a huge puzzle of the unseen world. In fact, there are more spirit types that I can count.

The major differentiation I use when it comes to spirit is light spirits vs. low energy spirits.

Light spirits are those that reside in the Light (in the Divine, Heaven, Universe). They include angels, spiritual guides, deceased loved ones, animal guides, ascended masters, the list goes on.

As for low energy spirits, I am referring to earthbound spirits, residual energy, dark energy, and entities from other places. Just like there is positive and negative in our daily lives, the spectrum of light to dark exists on the other side. My early experience was with a low energy spirit.

You can choose who you want to work with as part of setting boundaries. Myself, I choose only to work with high vibrational light spirits. I do not invite in negative people in my daily life; thus, I don’t invite in low energy in my energetic and spiritual life.

(6) There is a light side of the spiritual realm

I would have wanted the reminder that just because I had a negative experience does not mean that only negative exists in the spiritual.

In fact, when your spiritual abilities are open, both light spirits and low energy spirits will try to catch your attention once they are aware you can sense them. Until you set boundaries, you are allowing both types into your life so to say.

(7) You can set boundaries. You have the power to choose who you invite into your life.

Set boundaries of who you will allow into your life. Boundaries can include when, where, and how spirit can contact you. You can do this by writing them down on paper. Include non-acceptable behaviour as well.

Don’t fret. Don’t fear. No steering clear. You have the power over who and what you allow in your life.

(8) Protection methods and tools exist

Just like you would take preventative protection methods in your physical life. For example, not allowing a stranger into your house. You can do the same for the spiritual world.

  • You have the power to tell them to leave. Don’t ask. Don’t waiver. No asking a favour. Tell them to leave NOW. Be firm and tell them to leave through your front door, and never to return. You have this power. You are in control of who visits and stays. 
  • You can visualize a protection wrap of energy around you, with the intent of keeping out lower energies. You can learn more about a protection wrap here
  • You can use crystals for protection. My favourite crystals for protection include but are not limited to amethyst, black tourmaline, black onyx, and tiger’s eye. 

These are just a few of the methods I use on a daily basis. There are many more tools you can use. Today, there are endless resources available online.

A great resource I would recommend is Amanda Linette Meder’s membership group for spiritual development. By joining you receive an ebook called Spiritual Security: A Psychic Protection eBook. This eBook is extremely beneficial. And if you plan to open up to your spiritual side, it’s important to learn to protect yourself from the beginning. Amanda also has a Release Your Fears course.

(9) You are never alone

Every person has a spiritual team made up of spiritual guides and guardian angels. When in doubt ask for help. Your spiritual team generally will not intervene unless you ask.

Within your spiritual team, you have a protector guide. Ask your protector guide to help you enforce your boundaries. Your protector guide can help keep out any lower energies and negative people in your daily life.

You can also call on Archangel Michael for assistance. Archangel Michael can also lend you his protection shield if you so desire the extra protection. Be sure to thank your spiritual team for their help.

Books to assist you in better understanding ghosts

When Ghosts Speak by Mary Ann Winkowski and Ghosts Among Us by James Van Praagh are my top favourite books on this subject. They assisted me in better understanding the realm of ghosts. I highly recommend that you check both books out. The links below include affiliate links.

After being closed off all those years, I look back, and I wonder why and how I was able to live all those years not embracing my spiritual side. I would not go back. This side of life is beautiful, and I look forward to what I will learn next.

With Love,

What do you wish you knew when you were a child when it comes to the spiritual world? Let’s discuss this in the conversation below!

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  1. elizabeth says:

    Hi Sara,

    I was drawn here, I think because I have a recently deceased relative hanging around.
    She knows that I can sense her and hear her. This is something she knew before she died as I have always been like this. Her death was sudden and unexpected and even though she was pretty old, she wasn’t done.
    It was helpful to read about earth bound spirit. It sounds like and feels like (dull, heavy and, in her case frustrated and angry too) what you wrote about these souls.
    It feels as if she thinks I can solve her problem, which seems like how she can come back and do it again- but better and with a lot more fun- and here’s the kicker- as her old self. Of course I can’t help and it isn’t my job either to figure out her next step. I’ve told her to please move forward and take the help (I am certain that there are those with her who are trying on to guide, I mean a sort of professional guide, not just loving deceased family members, although I think a few of these have tired too) that is being offered.
    It is exhausting and I’ve told her that she needs to go. So I’ve been firm.
    I am writing to tell you that just reading this had helped me feel like I am not losing my mind and that it is going to be alright and that what I feel with her is probably the case and not too out there.
    Thanks Sara. I feel a lot better for reading your article.
    Best regards,

    • Sara says:

      Hi Elizabeth,

      I am happy that this article has helped you. I had a similar situation occur to me, in terms of a family member that stayed behind. It can be difficult to work through. But keep in mind these experiences are often learning opportunities. Feel free to shoot me an email if there’s an article you wish to see on the blog.
      Wishing you all the best,

  2. Christina says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this and your article on the protection wrap. I’ve known for years I have gifts. Not one.. Multiple. Empath, Intuitive, Healer, and Medium. The Medium side I have stayed away from. Out of fear, like you. This past weekend, however it’s been made pretty clear I shouldn’t ignore it any longer. I attracked an earthbound spirit after offering to help an elderly man carry his groceries. After he politely declined I drove away I was completely overcome with a deep overwhelming saddness. It took me sometime but I did finally figure out what was happening. This is all so new to me. The spirit lead me to a buy greeting card with a blue bird on it. The moment I finished writing the address of the elderly man’s home on the envelope… There are no words to describe the warmth I felt. The most amazing warm loving feeling. I believe in my heart now this must have been the moment Amy’s spirit crossed over. Have you experienced anything like this? So many of my worries and concerns you addressed. I’m still processing all of this, but this truly has helped me. Thank you again for sharing this.

    • Sara says:

      Hi Christina,

      I’m so happy this post was of assistance for you.

      What a validating experience you had! That is wonderful you were able to be of assistance to her by getting that message across.

      Yes there comes a time when we can no longer ignore those aspects of ourselves. I always felt like I didn’t know the real me, until I embraced all of me.

      My most recent experience with an earthbound spirit was actually a family member who hadn’t crossed over. Thankfully I was able to get them the assistance they needed in order to cross over. Sometimes a spirit will stay behind because they needed to get a message to another family member, or sometimes it’s to watch over someone… The reasons really are endless. But it’s very validating and good to know when that spirit has chosen to cross back over. I am grateful to have been of assistance in this situation.

      I hope your week is good,

      With Love,

  3. Jen says:

    I surround my self with people like my self. That know an understand what I can do.
    An they do not judge.
    My brother recently passed. And I was able to see his spirit leave his body.
    Everyone has this power. It is a gift from god.
    Some just decide to ignore it.

  4. I’m so glad I found your post and its link to When Ghosts Speak, which I’m now reading. Similar to you, I had a terrifying experience with a ghost when I was 3. I’ve always had this terror of the dark and couldn’t seem to shake it, and it’s only been in doing a process known as the Emotion Code that I’ve been able to uncover the source of this terror, which is having had several encounters with earthbound spirits and other entities which scared the living daylights out of me.

    I still feel like there’s more to learn, including how to feel safe and protected in my home and self. Do you think the crystal grid for your home and protective shield visualisation that you’ve written about are enough to keep out all forms of lower energies from your house and self?

    Do you have other recommendations for resources that are grounded, reliable and knowledgeable about negative energies other than earthbound spirits? I never wanted to believe that there could be any such thing, but my experiences are telling me otherwise. I’d like to learn more without getting into the realms of paranoia that I’ve seen online whenever you try to research something like “protection from negative energies” and so on. I trust your experience and advice, so I thought I’d ask you 🙂

    • Sara says:

      Hi Rachel,

      Sorry for the delay in response – for some reason I didn’t see your comment in the list until now! Well, better late than never!

      Once you open up to the spiritual world, there is definitely a lot to learn about! The crystal grid for your home and property free e-guide is a great method to assist with strengthening the energetic boundaries of your home and property from unwanted energies. However, lower energies can still end up in the home.

      There are so many different ways to cleanse the energy in the home and cleanse your energetic centres, that I will add it to my list of blog post topic ideas and think about a blog post for it!

      In the meantime, off the top of my head, I would recommend checking out:
      – space clearing (energetically clearing the space of your home – I talk about it in this post);
      – Meditations – meditations are so powerful when it comes to cleansing your energetic centres and even space clearing your home (for a large meditation collection to assist with this, I highly recommend that you check out Amanda Linette Meder’s Membership program – she has been one of my teachers in this life, and she offers so much in her membership);
      – Amanda also offers a book in her shop called Spiritual Security – a Psychic Protection Book (learn to thrive above negative energy and lower vibrations) – and it’s really good!
      – Also, I have a course coming soon called Crystals for Conscious Living – and I will be delving deeper into the topic of negative energies inside the course. If you are interested, you can get on the waitlist here.

      I hope these things are of assistance to you for now!

      With Love,

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